On Father’s Day we want to acknowledge not only the courageous men who took that leap of faith to become fathers, but also the men who are striving to become fathers. We also want to acknowledge the fathers who are struggling to protect their families and are navigating uncharted territories to do so.
The path a boy takes to become a man has changed dramatically.
In days of yore, a boy would train as an apprentice to become a hunter, farmer, priest, blacksmith, or craftsman. Some would specifically become pages to knights and focus on warfare or jousting for the entertainment of lords and kings. All men would additionally train to be soldiers. Every able-bodied man would learn skills with a sword and shield, and later guns, to protect their family and village. When something threatened their families, they would take up arms and defeat the enemy. The village would not survive without the men being willing to risk their lives, protecting and providing for them.
We are not advocating for violence, but times have changed, and those changes are resulting in a generation of men who must shift how they fight to protect us, or lose their way for lack of purpose, and succumb to loneliness, depression, and addictions. Not being able to protect their families in today’s society can result in squandering their unique traits, loss of healthy masculinity, and the sense of safety in our communities that we once had with strong male leaders.
In modern times, our men, our fathers, and those struggling to become fathers, are not able to simply gather and march to a battlefield to defeat the current enemies that threaten our health and safety.
Their enemies often employ them. Our enemies are in our phones and laptops, and their products are in our food and medicines.
Data centers are threatening our neighborhoods. PFAS, pesticides, asbestos, fluoride, contaminated vaccines, and gene therapy vaccines are killing our babies and loved ones.
There is no battlefield in modern times where our men can defeat the enemy.
Today’s men are on the information age battlefield. Being a father means more than just working a job and providing an income to pay for the shelter, food, and clothing for their offspring and wife. It means, in addition to making time to work, enjoy sports, and relax with other men, play with their children, and make love to their wives, they need to decipher the news, social media information, and lies being told to them from mainstream media, and learn how to protect their families from the massive corruption of information that their families are being inundated with on a daily basis.
It is a huge task. Thankfully, many wives and women have taken up deciphering the information as well. Men are not alone in their battle as they were in the past. This is an information and corruption problem that takes many minds and perspectives, and women and men can both learn, discuss, share, and strategize on how best to take care of our families.
I saw a post recently on a relationship Facebook page that asked, “What makes a woman attracted to a man?” and the majority of the responses were about safety. Many literally said, “when a man puts his body in between me and danger.” Or, “when my husband speaks up at city hall about the nonsense going on in my town, I want to jump his bones.” Even, “all he has to do is look at the kids and make them stop fighting with a glance, and I am instantly attracted to him.” Reducing tension, creating safety, and being bold in the face of conflict is what makes a man a healthy, attractive, and safe man, regardless of whether weapons are involved or not, maybe even more so without.
To the fathers who are doing this, who recognize that they are strapping on the armor when they turn on the TV news, or shutting down the battle when they don’t allow the cable TV in their house in the first place, our hats are off to you.
To the fathers who realize they are building their muscles and fending off the trolls when they have a hard discussion with their children and require parental blockers and time restrictions on social media, we salute you.
To the young men who are researching, posting, making podcasts, and speaking up in rooms with dissent for the data centers, pesticide spraying, or vaccine mandates - you are on track to being sexier, safer, and more reliable than any man with a Porsche or Rolex ever was.
To the young men who put down the soda and pick up the filtered water or kombucha, who exercise instead of playing video games, who self-regulate with God and nature instead of alcohol, that is your personal battle field. When you win that war, every day over time, you win the information war on your soul.
Being a protector of our health, freedom, and safety is the most protective and attractive thing a young man can do to become a father. Just keep living by your values and having the courage to speak up, and you will win the hearts and minds of your community and of a critical-thinking, wise, and wonderful wife. May you bear many children and relish in the trials and tribulations of the best job in the world, parenthood.
Happy Father’s Day to all the fathers and fathers-to-be who protect and provide for our families and communities. We would not be who we are as a nation without you.
Thank you.